A little tip from old Uncle Joe

Why is this thing called doing life so hard?  Why can't it be easier?

Have you ever asked yourself those questions? 

Life isn't really all that easy because we are who we are.  Us!  And we are downright human....chock full of a mixture of brokenness, baggage, and (I believe) perhaps a gene that makes us complicate things way beyond their normal proportion.  An example of the influence of that gene is our ability to carry a grudge.  Grudges are weird.  They start out of a bit of anger over some real or perceived "wrong" by another person.  They are light, they don't weigh much initially, so when they are dancing around in our heads they don't have all that much effect on us....again, initially. 

However (you sensed a however, I take it?)....over time those grudges begin to take on weight.  That's because the anger that is attached to it becomes a mad.  You see, the longer we allow that dancing in the head to take place a metamorphosis is happening.  A little anger becomes a large mad.  Usually over something simple or stupid in the grand scheme of things.  Oh, to us at the time it is a "big deal"...but really just how big is it in the grand scheme of life?  And it starts to weigh us down.

So now there is this grudge/anger thing that has morphed into this grudge/mad thing and guess what?  Now stress comes along.  Mad seems to be a pretty good stress magnet, so here all of a sudden this thing that's been dancing around in your head is starting to create stress.  When that old grudge pops its ugly head up while mind dancing (and it might only be every so often) aren't you starting to feel just a bit more passionate about that initial "wrong" or "slight"....even though it was (what!!) way back when?

What to do?  Well, lighten up, put it away, shut down the dance floor, get rid of that stress causing baggage, and move on!!  How?

Here's a little tip from old Uncle Joe: 

"Life becomes easier when you learn to accept the apology you never got."

R. Brault