Unfortunately, the characteristics of my father didn't escape me. I was the same way with my kids. I hadn't learned how the "be the kid" from my dad, so I wasn't very good at "being the kid" with my kids until they got closer to adulthood (teens).
The truth is, many of us adult fathers tend always not only to think like adults when around our kids, but to a large degree we tend to forget that our kids are just kids, that they think like kids, act like kids, and don't think like adults--though so often we somehow expect them to. We often fail miserably to bring ourselves down to their level when we need to. To them, their "stuff" is big stuff, really, really big deals. To us it may often seem petty and trite, and is easily dismissed as such. The following pretty much sums it up:
Bottom Line Thought: Do you struggle with "being the kid" around your kids? What impact do you think that might have on them as they grow up, and on how they parent in their time? Are you doing all you can so that your kid can fully live with their "big stuff"?
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