Case 1: A healthy, robust,
middle aged business owner, active in church, family, and community, looked
forward to retirement a few short years away. Sadly, he suffered a very severe
stroke while dressing for work one day. He will never fully recover, and will
require specialized care during his remaining life. Result: a family turned
upside down.
Case 2: A happily married
retired couple. They had planned for retirement wisely, and envisioned travel
they had longed for all of their married life. Not long after his retirement,
the wife became “different”, and was finally diagnosed with dementia. She went
downhill fast, and it wasn’t long before she had no idea who family was.
Result: a family turned upside down.
In both cases, each of the parties
of each case were very spiritually grounded and of strong faith. In neither
situation did any family member cave in to “why us” self pity, bitterness, or
doubt in their faith. None became angry at God for what had seemed sure to be
pleasant retirements gone badly. And, in each case, each family unit stayed as
a family unit, fully accepting their new roles as care-givers.
Some cases like these end up badly.
There have been times when the care-giver has simply given up and bailed out,
or, worse yet, where the case has ended up as a horrific murder-suicide because
there seemed to be no other way out. Families have splintered because of
situations like these cases.
How we govern our lives, from now
until an eventual catastrophic event like this, will govern how we handle such
a situation. If God and our faith is at the core of the relationship, He is the
center of our lives, we stand a much better chance of handling such a situation
with both dignity and honor. We will continue to love the other, no matter
what. We will remain stronger than we will otherwise. And we will know, that no
matter what, God hasn’t abandoned us.
Bottom Line Thought: While
we all hope with all hope that situations like those above will never occur to
us, we never know do we? Are you building your foundation in such a manner now
that should something like that occur you will be able to deal with it in an
honorable and dignified manner? Is your love for your partner strong enough to
do that? That’s a hard question—or isn’t it?
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