The Word Demon

There were times when I was certain that there was some kind of word demon in my mind. That’s the one that tosses some of “those” words into what we’re saying, often at the worst times-- like when the kids are within earshot. That word demon can get us in trouble, right? It’s not very hard for inappropriate words to come out of our mouths at times like;

·         A discussion with the wife turns into an argument.

·         The buddies are over and the stories and joke telling gets out of hand.

·         The holiday picnic is going on and discussion turns to the family outcast.

·         We’re working on something that’s broken at the house and something goes wrong.

·         We lose our temper with one of the kids in an over the top way.

There are times when the word demon gets us in trouble as well. Those are the times we don’t say the words our kids need to hear from us. The effect on their not hearing those words will have a more far-reaching effect on their well being and development into adulthood and beyond than the inappropriate ones.

Our kids not only want to hear what is sometimes not spoken, they need to hear them from us dads. They need to hear them regularly, with sincerity, honesty, and with enthusiasm. Here are a few examples.

·         I am so proud of you.

·         I love you so much.

·         I am really sorry…

·         I forgive you….

·         Will you forgive me? I was wrong.

·         I am listening to you.

·         This is your responsibility.

·         You are special in God’s eyes.

Bottom Line Thought: Is the word demon having a negative or positive impact in your relationships with your kids? Are you saying the wrong things at the wrong time or the right things at the right time?